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Self Improvement Is The Way To Happiness

 

Self Improvement is a way in which a person makes an effort in improving his performance in various activities. Self improvement helps the person in harnessing his powers positively to achieve results. By practicing self improvement a person is able to do his tasks on time and also do them successfully. No matter what challenges a person faces at different stages of life, a self improvement program plans to make the person meet the challenges with total confidence. A person is able to bring more control and benefits to his life in various ways.

 

A person should follow a self improvement program which consists of basic skills to improve one's quality of life. A self improvement program makes a person understand himself and how life works. It also builds self esteem, self respect and overall mental discipline in a person. One can find more meaning and purpose to one's life by following a self improvement program.

A self improvement program brings out the true powers of the individual and teaches him how to use his powers positively for his upbringing. A self improvement program helps the person in meeting newer and newer challenges everyday and helps him in grasping new opportunities. It helps him in fulfilling his duties towards himself and his society. It helps him to understand the purpose of his life as each person in the world has to fulfill a purpose in life.

 

A self improvement program provides inspiration to many through its lessons that should be read everyday. Thousands of people around the world are buying books and subscribing to newsletters for self improvement. The books are professionally written and divided into chapters to be read each and every day. Each chapter consists of a different way to achieve self improvement effectively. One can also get to understand the importance of self awareness by reading the books. Self awareness is fundamental to spiritual and personal growth. With the help of a self improvement program we are able to know what we want in life and how do we fulfill our desires.

 

Self improvement programs make us break through our limited powers of thinking. They help us see the bigger picture of life and also make us achieve prosperity in life by changing our behavior according to the situations that we face in life. Self improvement is not something that is to be read or practiced one time. It is indeed an ongoing process to be followed for life. Hence we conclude that following self improvement programs throughout our span of life prove to be beneficial in a variety of ways as mentioned above.

 

S. Stammberger is the editor of A1 Self Improvement Tips - a Self Improvement and Self Help Portal.

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Use the Boomerang Effect to Acheive Your Goals in Life

"The game of life is the game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us sooner or later with astounding accuracy."
Florence Shinn

Thoughts have energy.

Thoughts become things.

If you think you cannot see your thoughts then think again. You only need to take a look at your world to see the thoughts you have been thinking.

"Mind is the master power that moulds and makes and man is mind, and evermore he takes the tool of thought, and, shaping what he wills brings forth a thousand joys a thousand ills. He thinks in secret, and it comes to pass, environment is but his looking glass."
James Allen, As a Man Thinketh

Moment by moment your thoughts are creating your reality. Whatever you think about on a consistent basis will come right back at you.

We often take for granted our ability to think. But it is our ability to think, to reason, to change our perception of things, which separates us from other animals. Our ability to think is both a blessing and a curse.

"The mind in itself and in its own place can make a hell out of heaven and a heaven out of hell."
John Milton

For those who have learnt to hone their thinking and truly focus on their goals they succeed in achieving their goals. Others may say they want one thing but focus their thoughts on the opposite. Their thoughts are often directed at what they don't want, e.g. ill-health, poverty, loneliness, etc. The Universe willingly obliges and these things show up in their lives right on schedule.

People's words generally reflect how they are thinking. I frequently have conversations with clients who say they want one thing but their language is so negative and disempowering. They find it hard to accept that by changing their language, even if they have to do it gradually, for it is often difficult for these individuals to make a 180 degree turn, that they will change the results they get in their lives. They fail to realise that every time they utter something negative it is reinforcing a reality that they do not desire.

I read a story recently about best-selling author and spiritual advisor, John Harrichan, which struck a chord within me. The story was about a difficult period in his life following the loss of his young wife and mother to his two children to cancer. As the family had no medical insurance he was left with a mountain of bills as well as a heavy heart.

He was off to the supermarket to purchase milk and bread for his family. He had just four dollars in his pocket. On his way to the supermarket he stopped at a red light where he noticed a young man, young woman and child. The man held up a cardboard sign with said, "Will Work for Food". This family may have been down on their luck but they maintained their dignity.

It was a blisteringly hot day. The woman stared listlessly at the passing cars and the child, whom John Harrichan estimated to be about two years old, clutched a broken doll. The lights changed and he drove off. In his heart he wanted to help this family but he only had four dollars. How would he feed his own family if he gave his meagre funds away?


But, the family by the roadside left an indelible impression on his mind. He felt compelled to act and so he turned around and went back to them. He gave the man two of his four dollars. The man had tears in his eyes as he accepted the money.

John Harrichan thought to himself that maybe the supermarket might have a special offer on the items he wished to purchase so that he could stretch his remaining two dollars. As he stepped out of the car his foot slipped on something. It was a twenty-dollar bill. He couldn't believe his good fortune.

Not only did he now have enough money to buy the items he had originally intended to purchase. He also had enough money to buy some other much-needed items plus on his way home he again found the family by the roadside and gave them an additional five pounds.

He gave away two pounds and the Universe rewarded him ten-fold. And that is an important fact to remember for when we give what we receive in return is multiplied. So while I don't advocate giving just to receive; the more you give the more you will receive. Plus, you will not receive that which you cannot give.

There's a little saying that goes like this:

"A man there was, and they thought him mad,
The more he gave, the more he had."

Sometimes we think to ourselves, "But I've nothing to give". A change in perception is all that is needed. You can give of your time and you can lend a helping hand. You may have something that is no longer of use to you but would be invaluable to someone else. I recycle as much as I can because in this way I consider I am giving back to the Universe who has provided so bountifully for me.

Also, when you give don't try to guess where your returns will come from. They may often come from unexpected quarters when you least expect them. In addition, unless you are practised in expressing gratitude for the things you have in your life you may not even notice the boomerang effect.

The world's wealthiest people are generally the world's greatest givers - Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, Andrew Carnegie, John D Rockerfeller to name a few.

So think empowering thoughts, speak kind words and commit compassionate deeds and notice the positive effect it has on your life and in helping you to achieve your goals.

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Using Positive Affirmations to Achieve Success

Although people do not always realize it, they can often be limited in what they can achieve by mental boundaries. These mental boundaries can in turn be overcome by positive affirmations and affirmation enhancement. When a person is mentally limited, they may find that they are unable to complete a task or goal that they are aiming for. Whether this is career progression, overcoming money problems or even passing a driving test; being able to understand and achieve your full potential can be difficult.

Very few people manage to achieve exactly what they want to in life. Those that manage to achieve everything that they want to tend to be good at entering into a dialogue with their sub-conscious and they also tend to be open-minded as far as their perception of the potential for human-achievement goes. Positive affirmations help people achieve what they want to, and live a more fulfilling life; those that are able to free their mind to the potential for physiological modeling often manage to achieve much more than those who are skeptical from the outset.

While some people may decide that they wish to achieve financial success, others may wish to find love, or re-unite with their family for example. The truth is that everyone has the power within, and the ability to absorb enough power, to achieve their absolute full potential – through using the process of affirmation enhancement coupled with daily affirmation you can achieve exactly what you have set as your goals. While goal setting is important, you should not lose sight of how you enjoy yourself on a daily basis. That is why, with experience, you may start to use your daily affirmations as a means of ensuring that you are able to enjoy yourself on a day-to-day basis, as well as achieving strategic happiness.

As people realize, our goals can often change. One day we may wish that we were able to play an instrument for example, and then as we start to learn how to play it, the fun associated with it can often disappear. This is an example of a gateway to happiness, rather than happiness itself. For example, you may wish to learn to drive; however you only want to be able to drive so that you can work in your dream job that deems that you need a driver’s license. The driver’s license is a gateway, and in fact so is the job – everyone makes goals which they set as a means of achieving happiness. Which begs the question: can you merely affirm towards happiness, rather than the means of getting you there?

The answer is no. Through merely aiming towards your end goal of happiness, rather than the strategy to get you there, you will lose focus on what you enjoy, as well as the trial and tribulation involved in finding true happiness. While happiness is subjective, using affirmations as a means to get there can be the best solution for those with an open mind.

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Your Core Belief

By: Dr. Drew Henry

 

We sometimes accept a core believe as the truth without questioning it. As core beliefs accumulate over the years they eventually make up a system that functions in much the same way as a computer's operating system. Running in the background at such a discreet level, we are usually not even aware it is there.

Our core belief has been developed since we were a child. This is due to the result of a great many factors, including but not limited to, the way we were influenced by our parents, siblings and other significant people in our lives. By the time we reach adulthood we have some pretty fixed opinions of ourselves and the world around us. And once installed, these beliefs are rarely updated unless the whole system crashes!

If our core beliefs are for the most part positive and empowering it is reflected in our attitudes, behavior and performance. Of course the reverse is also true. If we run predominantly negative beliefs our attitudes and behaviors are severely compromised, crippling our potential for success and happiness.

The question is that can we change our core belief? If there is a repeating problem in some area of your life, it is usually a good indication that you are entertaining a false or limiting belief. Before a belief system can be changed or improved, however, it is important to first understand a little about how a belief system works.

Belief systems are nothing more than repetitive thoughts that have come to be so automatic; you don't even notice them anymore. The subconscious mind tends to use a fixed, automatic pattern put in place at a very early age. Once in place, our belief system will unconsciously attract the people and circumstances that validate it. As negative beliefs accumulate over the years and become part of the system, it gets easier to collect 'evidence' that appears to support those beliefs and harder to see any evidence to the contrary!

Before trying to change an unwanted belief it is helpful to acknowledge the positive intention behind it when it was first installed. After all, most negative beliefs were originally installed to protect us and were relevant to what was going on at the time.

The problem arises when we hold onto these beliefs even though they may not hold true for the same situations today. If you are serious about updating your belief system, avoid getting sidetracked by the temptation to blame someone else for inserting false beliefs into your system. It's not important where the beliefs come from, what is important is that we get rid of or transform these beliefs into something useful today.

You should therefore build a belief system that will send out the right vibrations which will attract the people and circumstances necessary to create the experiences we desire.

About the Author: Dr. Drew Henry maintains a number of psychic wesites, including Psychic Information Now, Psychic Ability ,and Psychic Advice.

 

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The Art of Happiness... Be Happy Now

Has it ever seemed to you that: relationships are free but happiness is sold separately? Learn why authentic happiness is a choice you can start making today, and discover how to start finding the happiness you're looking for just one step away.

Would you like to be 100% happier than you are now? How about 1,000% happier? What stands between you and having greater happiness now? Read on to see how you can discover the happiness you're looking for in your life. It's just one step away.

Have you ever noticed how often people rely on others in their pursuit of happiness? How they expect someone else to make them happy? You might hear people say things like: "If only he would be nicer." "Didn't she know that would hurt my feelings?" "I would be happy if he would only talk to me more."

When people have this idea in their head they can spend a lot of time figuring out how to fix or change other people.

What's the trouble if you try this strategy? Not only do the other people feel irritated, they often get defensive at your attempt to "FIX" them. And it leaves you powerless. If THEY don't change, YOU can't be happy.

But even more important is that, since what you focus your attention on grows, focusing on what you don't like will cause it to become what you notice most in your life.

Say, for example, when your significant other comes home they often leave a trail with their clothes, bags, books, whatever, strewn throughout the house. It drives you nuts! Every time you look at the residue of stuff they leave behind them, you feel irritated.

This has gone on for so long that now you notice every little piece of debris, everywhere you look, all the time.

And what you focus your attention on grows.

Perhaps you say something like this to them: "Can't you pick up after yourself? You are such a slob."

It's probably not the first time you've talked about the clothes on the floor. And probably not much has changed since that first time. So what happens next?

The person leaving the clothes around probably gets annoyed at being told what to do. You lose hope that things will ever change. And you focus more and more on what you don't enjoy about your partner.

Remember, what you focus your attention on grows!

So here it is, the step that will move you closer to being happier than ever before: Develop YOUR ability to focus your attention on what you ENJOY.

Maybe this sounds too simple. But ask yourself: "What would my day be like if I started and ended it by simply noticing or remembering everything that I enjoy in my life?"

Remember, what you focus your attention on grows. Focus on what you enjoy - it's quite simply the fastest, easiest step you can take to start finding happiness in every moment.

Try this. Pretend that you have an emotional bank account. Every one of your thoughts makes a deposit. This means that if you're constantly depositing painful memories in your emotional bank account, they will grow and grow.

They'll even start multiplying if you're using the law of compound interest. What's this? It's compounding the effect of thoughts like: "What a slob!" with more thoughts like: "She doesn't care about me." or "He's the most selfish person I've ever met."

Now, do you feel happy?

Now imagine that each day, you look for things that you enjoy, and you are thankful for them.

Your significant other comes into the house and smiles. Is that something to be thankful for? They ask you if you would like a cup of tea. Is that something to be thankful for? You see them put something away, without being asked. Is that something to be thankful for?

Now imagine depositing these memories in your emotional bank account, day after day. And compound them with as many other thankful, grateful thoughts as you can so they grow and grow. "It's lovely when he brings me tea; he's so considerate sometimes." "I'm so glad we like doing things together." "We just have so much in common; she is so much fun to be with"

How do you feel now?

Happy or sad, good or bad, pleasure or pain - authentic happiness is up to you. Focus on what you enjoy. Enjoy being thankful. It's something anyone can do, even you.

What you focus your attention on will grow. You do have an emotional bank account so start saving your happiness up today. With a bank-full of thankful, you'll be a master at the art of "having happiness now."

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Three Deadly Mistakes That Consistently Wreck Your Life

 

Sow and you shall reap. This is the principle of prosperity. It is the modus operandi of the universe and the modus vivendi of human life. And it is the secret of abundance.

If you cleave to this principle, your life will be one of abundance.

It is the incomprehension of this principle that is the cause of all human misery. In contrast, it is the comprehension of this principle that has been the root cause of any happiness.

First, let us understand the principle.

When you sow a seed into fertile ground, you do not reap a plant that simply yields another seed. Instead, you reap a plant that provides that seed multiplied many times over.

The principle of sowing and reaping, then, is the secret of abundance.

Yet despite its obvious simplicity and its observable nature, it is consistently misunderstood.

And although one may disregard the idea itself, it still continues to work in your life.

Here, then, are the three most common errors associated with this metaphysical principle that governs all life, spiritual or mundane, animal or plant, animate or inanimate.

One: Not applying it at all. It is quite common for people to want to receive without giving and to want something for nothing. There is a price to pay for everything, even if it is free.

This is how it generally plays out. You want something and you try to get it. Your effort will result in your either not getting it or getting very little of it. If you want love, you try and get it from someone. If you want money, you try and get it from someone. And so on. The result of this approach is limitation, negativity, scarcity, and insufficiency.

Two: Applying it in reverse. Here is where the misery factor comes in. Political, military, or economic force is applied. Successful domination may or may not happen. Eventually, the backlash is far worse.

In fact, this is how mighty empires, seemingly invincible, have crumbled into the dust.
On an individual level, the same thing happens. An application of apathy, grief, fear, lust, anger, and pride results in a condition far worse.

Three: expecting the return to come from the recipient. When people first discover and apply this principle, they usually give up fairly quickly. Their act of benevolence or generosity often appears to be met with ingratitude. Rather than reciprocating, the recipient often appears to be indifferent or even sometimes hostile, feeling obligated and pressured.

If you wish to have an abundant, happy life apply the principle.

Here is how to do it:

Give consistently the best of yourself to help others and the world. This giving should be done freely, regularly, and generously, with no expectation of return and with a joyous heart.

Do that one simple thing and you will be a master of manifestation and live a life that you could never before have believed possible for you.

As you sow so shall you reap.

Your returns will come back multiplied. Every single unit of what you give, be it love or money, wisdom or service, will come back to you tenfold, if not more. The bigger your heart, the more overflowing your generosity of spirit, the more you will be overwhelmed by the quantity of the return.

Do this and you will be avoiding the three misunderstandings that prevent most people from understanding the principle.

You will be applying the principle, rather than ignoring it. You will be applying it in a positive way, rather than in a negative way. And you will not press the recipient to feel obligated but patiently await your own harvest from some other source, not yet known to you.

Now please understand one other thing:

Whether you choose to acknowledge it or not, the principle is always working. This is because it is the basic mechanism of how the universe itself operates. Just as inhalation and exhalation is necessary for the operation of your life, so too is giving and receiving essential to the life of the universe.

Applying it with awareness will prevent you from making the three deadly mistakes and turn your misfortunes into fortune and your inhibited life into one of joyous and spontaneous fulfillment.

Decide today who you are and decide what you can give to bless all of life. It may be a small gift that you have to give the world but it will magnify over time as the giving becomes consistent.

Understand and apply this simple principle and you will attain success not only as a human being but as a spiritual being, for, in the final analysis, all life is a unitary continuum.

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Why It's Possible: Transforming Limiting Beliefs

By: Wendy Betterini

 

If you could change anything in your life right now, what would it be? And why haven't you done it yet? If you're like most of us, the answer lies in your existing beliefs.

We often forget the powerful role our beliefs play in creating what we want. We can visualize, affirm, set goals, and work hard till the cows come home -- but if we don't believe something is possible, we will resist the formation of it in our lives.

The good news is, once you understand how your beliefs are holding you back, you have full control over changing those limiting beliefs - and your life will change in awesome and spectacular ways!

Let's take a look at what most of us do when we decide we want something. We first express a desire or set a goal. I want to lose weight. I want to make more money. I want to buy a new car. Then, we immediately start coming up with reasons why it's not possible. I don't have time to exercise. My company isn't giving pay raises this year. I can't afford a new car.

What if, by changing those limiting beliefs, we could make the impossible become possible?

It's important to understand that to us, our beliefs are FACT. We have convinced ourselves that those facts are "truth." However, think a moment about all the other "facts" that ended up not being true. We used to believe the earth was flat. We used to believe the sun revolved around the earth. We used to believe that space travel was impossible. We used to believe that a cancer diagnosis was an automatic death sentence. Ditto with AIDS. None of these things are "true" now, are they?

Think about some of the truths you have formed about your own life. Are they really true?

I'm not worthy of a loving relationship.
I'll never have a lot of money.
Rich people are rude.
Money is evil.
I'm not talented, I don't have any marketable skills.
Everything always goes wrong for me.
I have the worst luck of anyone I know.
I can't do that.
I don't have what it takes to be successful.

If you change these "facts" in your own mind, what might happen? You might attract a loving relationship. You might have a lot more money. You might recognize your own potential, start experiencing good fortune on a regular basis, and reach the level of success you dream about. Sounds good, doesn't it? :-)

But how? How do we change these truths in our own minds? This is the fun part. We have to convince ourselves that what we want is POSSIBLE.

Recently I've been playing a little game with myself called, "Why It's Possible." I invite you to play along in your own life, because it is incredibly empowering and it will blast away those limiting beliefs and begin attracting what you desire.

As I described above, most of us will state a desire and then immediately begin telling ourselves why it's not possible. With my game, "Why It's Possible," we simply add on some new thoughts that help us see why our desire IS possible. Here's how it works.

We state a desire: I want to lose weight. Limiting beliefs come up: Diets don't work for me, I don't have time to exercise. We then deliberately begin formulating ideas about "Why It's Possible": I don't have to diet to lose weight, I can just moderate how much I eat. I can fit more activity into my routine by parking my car farther away or taking the stairs instead of the elevator. There are plenty of slender, healthy people in this world who don't diet or exercise much! If they can do it, I can do it too.

Let's try it with another desire: I want more money. Limiting beliefs: My company isn't giving pay raises this year. I don't have the energy to get a second job. I've got too many bills. Why It's Possible: Money can come to me in so many ways, it doesn't have to be through my job. Money can come to me through lottery winnings, inheritance, unexpected bonuses, or I can even start a fun part-time business!

Here's the key: YOUR "WHY IT'S POSSIBLE" IDEAS MUST BE BELIEVABLE. If you don't believe in their validity, your limiting beliefs will NOT be transformed. That's so important to understand! With some beliefs, it might take time to come up with true, legitimate possibilities that you can honestly believe in.

Here's another important key: Reinforcement WILL be necessary. For smaller beliefs, you might be able to change them quickly and almost effortlessly. But for the big ones, you might need to keep playing the "Why It's Possible" game over and over.

As you keep reinforcing your new beliefs and you begin to believe that they really are possible, more and more doors will begin opening for you. That's what's been happening in my own life since I began playing this little game. Not only am I getting more of what I ask for, I'm getting things I didn't ask for. Everything is beginning to flow so much more smoothly and effortlessly. It will for you too, if you're willing to believe. :-)

About the Author: Wendy Betterini is a freelance writer specializing in self-improvement and personal development concepts. Visit her website, www.WingsForTheHeart.com for free articles on positive thinking, goal-setting, self-esteem, personal growth, and more.

 

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Would You Like To Overcome Fear? 10 Quick And Easy Tips

Fear is one of the top culprits for making people unhappy. It has been the cause of wars, bitter rivalries, tyranny and despair for people all over the world. People have suffered in untold numbers because they let fear rule their lives while those who overcome fear have met with great success and accomplishment. If fear is keeping you from living the kind of life you've always wanted, you can change that. Here's how to improve your life skills:

1. Know what causes your fear. You'll never understand why you fear something if you don't know what it is and why you're scared of it in the first place. Identify what it is. Did you nearly drown as a kid that's why you're scared of water? Did you experience painful ridicule when you tried to perform publicly? Are you afraid to go do what you've always wanted because you've seen other people fail?

Fears like these nip newly formed dreams at the bud. They chew at people's self-confidence, breaking it down slowly but painfully. By knowing the whats and whys of your fear, you can plan ways to overcome them in a more effective and comfortable manner.

2. Keep your fears close. Whether it's a physical or mental source of fear, sometimes the best way to overcome it is to use desensitization. This is a method often used by psychologists to help their patients handle their fears. By getting used to the object or the situation, you get used to the 'idea' of fear and to the way you feel when you encounter it. Once you are 'desensitized' to fear, you begin to treat it like it's a normal part of your day-to-day life and not give it any special attention.

3. Start small by overcoming your fears one by one. Anybody can be overwhelmed by big things. If you must overcome your fear, do so in little steps. Your mind is more likely to accept an object of fear if you introduce it slowly but with certainty. Do not take more than you can handle comfortably. By experiencing small successes, you build inner strength and will.

4. Have a support group. It's important that you have people who can give you support and encouragement just when you need them most. People whom you trust can make you feel more comfortable knowing that you are 'backed up'.

Choose a group of people whose opinions you value and those who can encourage you to go bolder. Stay away from grouches or pessimists who will do more harm than good.

5. Don't try to be perfect. The ideals of perfection have many positive effects on the lives of people but they have also conversely affected many who have mistakenly thought that perfection was the only way to go. By keeping your expectations real, you don't feel the compulsion to be flawless. Fear is part of being human and once you've accepted that it will be part of your life, you'll be able to handle it better.

6. Don't feed fearful thoughts. Fears have a way of ballooning uncontrollably when you obsess about them. By thinking and worrying about how they can affect you, you make them seem bigger than they really are.

Try to think things through in a rational manner and keep your thoughts trained on opportunities instead. If you're afraid of selling, for example, don't focus on the rejections you might receive but on the possibilities of making a good sale.

7. Learn to relax. Fear can get to you more easily if you're anxious and hyped. By being calm and relaxed, you are better able to assess the situation and create a plan of action. By thinking straight, you train your mind to focus on what needs to be done and not on how fearful you feel.

8. Learn to say no and let go. Change is always disconcerting. It pulls us away from our comfort zone and forces us to tread on uncharted territory. But by learning to say 'no' to your fears and letting go, you are taking full responsibility of your actions, thereby preventing fear from affecting your decisions directly.

9. Have fun. Taking things too seriously will only increase your worries and make them bigger than they really are. By focusing on the fun aspect of a task or activity, you push away the worries and negative thoughts that would otherwise stop you from performing at your best.

10. Fear will come back from time to time, but be patient. It takes a lot of patience and persistence to keep it tame. Make it easy on your psyche to fight it off and overcome it by convincing yourself that you have better things to do than being scared.

If you assess your fears in an honest and straightforward manner, you will find that a huge percentage of them are unfounded and simply untrue. By simply acknowledging that fears will appear in your life sporadically, you are already taking the step to recognize your strengths to handle them.

Accept your fears but don't let them get the better of you. This is a key life skill. Overcoming them is the secret to living your life fully and realizing your hidden potential.

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Weight Loss And The Law Of Attraction

By: Aaron Potts

 

Depending on the circles that you run in, you may or may not have heard about a very powerful force in your life that is called the Law of Attraction. It’s powers are literally limitless and utilizing those powers is absolutely free of charge!

Who doesn’t want Unlimited Cosmic Power without even having to bust open their wallet?

I will start with a brief introduction to the Law of Attraction, and then I will get right into how you can use this universal power for something that a lot of people care about – losing weight!

In simple terms, the Law of Attraction basically states that “like attracts like”. Whatever thoughts and feelings that you focus on the most will literally determine your future.

In fact, the Law of Attraction has already been working for you and every other life form in our universe since the beginning of time. However, only recently has education about its incredible power become readily available to the general public.

So how is it that the Law of Attraction can help you to lose weight? Simple – you just need to think about it! Sounds easy enough, right?

Well, it actually is just that easy, but an explanation of exactly how you are supposed to “think” will help you to understand this process better. You can then take that knowledge and use it to help you with your weight loss or fitness goals.

Earlier I said that the Law of Attraction has been working for all life since the beginning of time, which begs the question, “Then why haven’t I lost any weight yet?”. In fact, that same question could be asked about pretty much any other goal that anyone has ever had. If all we have to do is think about something in order to bring it into our lives, then why aren’t we all rich, perfectly healthy, and living happily ever after?

The simple answer is that most people – without even knowing it – don’t really think about what they want. They think about the fact that they DON’T have it. Now, if you’ll go back briefly to the definition of the Law of Attraction – like attracts like – then you will see that the reason why people don’t have the things that they want is because all they ever do is think about NOT having those things.

This same concept applies to weight loss and health just as efficiently as it applies to everything else. A lot of people want to lose weight, but rather than think about how wonderful their life will be once they have lost the weight, they instead think about how miserable they are because they HAVEN’T lost the weight!

Think about it. If you need to lose weight, which of the following statements describes your thoughts/feelings when you walk in front of a mirror without any clothes on:

a)I am so sexy since I have my weight under control, and I have an unlimited amount of confidence. I can date anyone that I please and my biggest problem is deciding which little tiny piece of clothing to wear to the beach or the swimming pool.
b)I am so FAT! I can’t even stand to look at myself in the mirror, so how can I expect anyone else to want to look at me? I’ll be lucky if I don’t have to take my clothing size up another notch or two at the rate I’m going.

Now, be honest. Which one of those statements do you think comes closer to the way that people who need to lose weight think of themselves?

Once again referring back to the Law of Attraction – If you think miserable, sad, guilty, or low self-esteem powered thoughts, then the Law of Attraction will dutifully bring you more things to be miserable about. In fact, the more miserable you are about any particular subject – say, weight loss – the more powerfully you will attract more of the same since that is your primary focus.

So, the answer to utilizing the power of the Law of Attraction for weight loss is to simply stop thinking about your situation in such a negative manner! Start thinking positive thoughts, confident thoughts, and thoughts of happiness, smaller clothing sizes, and showing more skin at the beach.

When you successfully do those things, the Law of Attraction will start to move around the chess pieces that affect your life, and before you know it, you will have whatever it is that you need in order to finally get in shape.

It may come in the form of a free gym membership, a workout partner, a piece of home exercise equipment that you actually want to use, a new motivation to get involved in some sort of physical activity, or any number of other things that will put you on the path to weight loss.

Here’s the rub, though – You can’t sit around and get hung up on the details. Mike Dooley said it best in the movie ‘The Secret’ – “The How’s are the domain of the Universe!”

You don’t need to worry about HOW it is going to happen, you just have to feel the positive, confident emotions that will MAKE it happen. The Universe will then step in and show you the path!

About the Author: Aaron Potts offers free self empowerment teachings at www.todayisthatday.com/blog/ and is the author of the Law of Attraction eBook 'Mental Meltdown: Weight Loss Begins in the Mind'. Get his free newsletter or grab your copy of the empowering eBook at www.todayisthatday.com

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----------------------------------------------------------------------Discover Secrets Of Acquiring Self Confidence

Self-confidence is one attribute every person should have in order for him or her to assert himself or herself. Many kids and even adults suffer from lack of confidence.

There are people who lack the ability to make strong decisions in life. Others are unsociable and are almost left alone often, while still others are too reliant on outside opinions and lose the independence of decision making. All these result from a lack of self-confidence.

That is why some parents of children who are exhibiting signs of lack of confidence are taking the problem very seriously. They immediately send the child to a therapy or to a behavioral treatment program.

Self-confidence is a really important for everyone, and lacking it should be treated as a serious problem. A person's future and career certainly depends on whether that person has trait of self-confidence in how they present themselves and solve problems.

Starting to build self-confidence:

People are not born with self-confidence. That trait is developed as a person learns more about the world from infancy to childhood to adulthood. Remember, without confidence, you would not have been able to learn how to walk, talk or do other necessary activities.

People with good self-confidence are those who have a belief that everything in life is achievable if there is proper motivation. Usually, these people are those with positive and cheerful disposition in life. Some observations also indicate that those lacking self-confidence are usually those who have experienced sad or traumatic events in the past. A dysfunctional family life in childhood can fail to provide the modeling needed for a child to emulate.

A simple disappointment can be considered a major event in a child's life, especially if the ill feelings that came along it were not properly addressed. Thus, simple embarrassment can be a major and serious cause of lack of self-confidence in a person. Shame can easily develop.

To start building up self-confidence, it is advised that the person gain and have a positive outlook about life. He should be cheerful and fun-loving and must have a good outlook.

Tips on gaining self-confidence:

Through the years, behaviorists and experts have been sharing some basic and helpful secrets that surely and effectively help people gain and develop self-confidence. Here are some of those simple tips:

Just feel good.

People with confidence are usually those who feel good about themselves. If you feel good about yourself, confidence is a natural occurrence. It makes it easy to talk the talk and walk the walk.

If you find it hard to feel good, there is a simple tip to help you out. Think of good and fun memories, think of a fun activity, or think of a person who really makes you feel happy. Redirect your thinking and use some positive self talk, Some experts advise that thinking of a favorite celebrity or an idol could also help build good confidence and disposition.

Overcome self-consciousness.

The most potent factor in sustaining lack of self-confidence and staying stuck is self-consciousness. Why do people not feel good about themselves? Because they think they are inferior to other people. When people think they are ugly or are less desirable, they start opting to withdraw. When we judge others with our own yardstick we often come up short. Why? Because we are our own harshest critic.

Another tip is to think of other people and how they get things done, then motivate yourself to doing the same. If you want to be a millionaire do what millionaires do.

Keeping busy and productive helps. Remember, idle minds are the workshops of the devil. If you are too bored because you don't have much to do, chances are that you would start noticing yourself and then develop a sense of self-pity and affliction.

Don't criticize yourself.

Criticisms surely are constructive, but often when they come from yourself, they have adverse effects. Self-criticism could lead to too much focus on self and eventually, to the feeling of inferiority, which could lead ultimately to lack of self-confidence.

Lastly, the most effective secret to building up a firm self-confidence is a belief in self, and motivation to succeed. If you keep on comparing yourself to others, you would certainly end up feeling less confident, so stop the habit and focus on the things you can accomplish, and then just do it.

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