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| Attract Love by Allowing yourself to Receive itEveryone desires to experience love with others. It is the greatest joy to feel love. We all know how to give love, but the problem is when we don't know how to receive it. Not being able to receive love is a major cause for many of the frustrations we face in relating with others. It is the same thing for anything that we give but seem to have problems receiving it in return. If we are able to receive love as much as we are able to give it, we will complete the cycle of experiencing love with others for full happiness.
We have been conditioned with the wrong beliefs that prevents us from receiving love. We think that it is pride to think highly of ourselves and expect others to think highly of us. That is why we do not openly receive compliments, adoration and all the gestures and expressions of love by others towards us. We turn away, try to hide from it and respond in all kinds of ways just not to appear as being proud, not knowing that we are actually rejecting the very love that is being given to us, than accepting it fully.
Be aware of how you respond to others when they are showing love to you. Do you get uncomfortable when others are looking at you and sending thoughts to make them stop looking at you? When someone tries to be extra nice to you, are you unable to accept it because it feels weird? When someone shows you adoration and praise, do you shy away and in any way try to diminish their expression? How you respond is exactly how you treat the love that people are giving to you whether you know it or not.
All the negative response that we make is the reason why we experience less and less expression of love from others. Each time they express love, we respond in a manner that says "please don't show me love, I'm unable to receive it" and we wonder why other people get to receive all the love in the world but we don't. We are the very ones creating all that we experience from other people. We program the way people treat us or don't treat us. We reinforce other people's behaviors negatively or positively.
Instead of rejecting love from others unknowingly when they show it, receive it. Do not just accept it but embrace it. When they behave extra nice to you, warmly receive them and show with the look in your eyes that you embrace their expression totally with appreciation. When others compliment you, allow them to do so freely and thank them for it. Show that you see yourself as a person worthy of all the love that others can give to you, and that others are free and welcomed to give it to you when they do.
There are those are so good at receiving love. They are able to attract all the love from others wherever they go. They act as if they are the star and everybody likes them. They are always expecting love and adoration from everyone and are showing it in the way they behave to you. They talk to you as if you admire them, like them, adore them, love them and want them. You can almost feel that they're tugging on your heart strings and drawing love from you to them. They appear and behave as so loveable.
Your relationship with love is mirrored in the external world in the way people respond to your love. Now you know why the ones whom you love and desire to express love to, can't seem to receive your love. It is because you can't receive love yourself. When others try to give you love, you unknowingly reject it. When you give love to the ones you love, you unknowingly reject them when they try to love you in return. When you can receive love from others, those you show love to can receive love from you.
Open yourself to love by allowing others the joy of loving you. Give them the gift of loving you by being loveable and attracting love from them. This is the magic key to making others love you and be able to show it to you. Allow them to express love to you in their action, words and expression, and having it well received. Our world will be so much more beautiful when others are able to express love to us and have us receive it fully, and we are also able to express love to others and have them receive it fully.
Some of us respond to love by an immediate counter expression of love. We are not really receiving the love when we give it back immediately. When someone says "I love you" to you, do not immediately respond with an "I love you" back at them. Take a moment to feel that love, receive it and let it sink in. Show that in your smile and the light in you eyes that you receive and appreciate it. Then out of the love that you feel, tell them that you love them. Do the same thing when responding to compliments.
In order to receive love from others, you must first be able to receive love from yourself. Declare mentally "I love myself" and then let the feeling of love generate from your heart area and expand to fill your entire being. Imagine a white light of love energy wrapped all over you on the inside and outside. Feel the love for yourself as you give it unconditionally and wholeheartedly. When you step into any place with the feeling of complete self love, you'll have an unassailable form that cannot be shaken by anyone.
From the place of self love are you able to truly love others. Allow yourself to be so full of that love for yourself and being that love, that it just spills over onto those around you. Then you can start projecting that love onto others. Let the love expand and fill the entire space that you are in so that everything around you is filled with the love that you are. When you love others from a place of self love, they are able to love you back freely because you do not need them to love you back since you have love yourself.
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In the deepest recesses of our minds, in our most private thoughts, we all have secretly wondered: What is love? Where does it come from? Why does it appear and disappear? Can I get more of it!? And, the best question of all: What is True Love?
Believe it or not, I have a few answers.
Love is never far away. It is always close by, as love is an essential part of Nature and of being human.
The reason that love is one of the greatest mysteries of life ... the reason that it is hard to pin down and talk about, is that most of love exists behind the scenes. It resonates from a part of ourselves that is silent and incomprehensible. Love lives in the quietest part of our being.
It is fascinating to try and follow love back to its source.
A practical way to start is by focusing our attention on a single expression of love that is found in our normal lives: Can you remember receiving a loving glance from a friend? ... or hearing the tenderness in your lover's voice? Now, trace that outer expression of love back to where it came from and you enter an inner world of feelings and thoughts. As you follow those feelings back, back, back ... into the inner realm ... eventually they disappear.
You may think that your journey has come to an end, when you find yourself on the threshold of a world of silence. Indeed, many people who journey to this vast region of stillness believe it to be a void that is not worthy of further contemplation. But actually, they have traveled to the main gateway of the real home of Love as the greater part of Love exists behind the scenes ... in this world of deep silence.
In Truth, love is a silent, underground, formless ocean that flows in us ... always present, eternally patient. We can open ourselves to receive its graces, or construct barriers to stop its flow.
The idea that "love comes and goes" is the standard view today, but that's just how it looks on the surface. What really is coming and going -- what really is changing -- are our preferences and points of view which either turns-off or turns-on the harmony and love that radiates from the silent part of us. Love is always present and we can be open to it or not.
For instance, every loving couple have disagreements that stem from different preferences and points of view. Arguments erupt as each person becomes entrenched with their particular point of view. After going round-and-round with the disagreement, they reconcile and their relationship returns to its normal state of harmony. What has happened during the disagreement is not that Love went anywhere. Love remained at home (in the stillness and silence behind the scenes), but the couple denied their access to love as each proclaimed the brilliance of their opinions. Once the attention placed on their differences subsided, they then relaxed and let the love flow normally back into their presence.
What I'm trying to say is that Love does not go away. It is always a part of the fabric of human life, as well as a part of each individual.
One of my favorite, most beautiful sayings is: "Love begins in the body, but ends in the soul." There is a lot of truth in that.
A new love relationship often starts out with a special attraction to certain physical features and personality traits of your partner. That level of love is fun and produces fantastic experiences (this relates to the first part, i.e., "Love begins in the body").
But as people age and life goes on, everything changes. If love is primarily based on special outward features of the body and personality, then love will not be present as the features held so dear, fade away.
But remember, the main body of love is deep, eternally present, mostly silent, and part of our natural make-up. That love is present as we change, as our partner changes, and as life goes on. It is not dependent on the outward qualities of a partner, but is based in a personal, enduring, spiritual nature in which you've realized that your lover is essentially no different than yourself. This level of love is what is referred to in the last part of the phrase "Love begins in the body, but ends in the soul."
These might be new words to you, but through your own experiences you know that it is true. For instance, we all have had dear friends and family members that we've known for many, many years, perhaps decades, who have now passed away. If you look back at your love for them, you will see that you loved them long ago ... their body changed a lot through the years and you still loved them ... their personality and mental features changed too, and your love remained unbroken. Even years after they passed away, your love for them is still right here ... you love them right now!
How can that be? It is because the highest levels of love are eternal. Our bodies come and go, our points of view do also, but there is a level of love that is always present. Let us try not to make our ordinary preferences greater than love itself, as we never want love to fade away ... in ourselves or our relationships.
The kind of love that stays ... that is here over time, moment by moment, day after day, year after year ... and is even present after our loved ones are no longer here -- that love comes from the silence and stillness of Being, and is the highest form of love.
That love deserves to be called "True Love."
Author and visionary artist, Teka Luttrell, is the creator of The Soul Connection Network website ... where people, art, music, psychology, physics and soul beautifully converge.--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------What is love?Concentration, the Road To Success a Lesson in Soul CultureBy Henry Harrison BrownBelow is an excerpt from Henry Harrison Brown's book written in 1907.Life is universal, but in man life is transmuted into human form and is love. The only power thought can direct is love. Thought is the individual expression of life; and love, the race or the human expression. Love is the absolute in the soul. Love is in reality God, for it is the omnipotent in human form. Therefore success depends upon your having a warm heart and your radiating at all times, love. This radiation is called, "personal magnetism." It, like magnetism, is a mode of motion, and it is like magnetism, one of the forms of universal attraction, and in its attractive power, it acts as magnetism does. But it is love under control of the individual ego as will. Will directing the life-force, which is love, is the secret of success. Therefore only as you love and throw yourself into your thought will you succeed. For health let your love manifest to all about you. A smile, a word of cheer, a helping hand, a generous deed, are stepping stones to success in business, in health and in happiness, because they are openings for the stream of love; are developing those radiations of personal influence that cause others to feel us, to respect us, to confide in us, and to do as we wish them to do. Cold heartless men may succeed in their special line, but they succeed at the expense of health and of the love of their fellows. Remember, Love is Power. As such it will either use us in its blind animal way, or we will use it intelligently, as we do other forms of power. I can give you no greater thought, were I to exhaust all language, than this. The sub-conscious is God manifesting as love and this power of God is subject to thought, the human expression. Love can be, is to be, directed by thought. "By my Thought, by my Auto-Suggestion I direct the expression of the Infinite Power which I am!' This is to be your thought as you enter the silence. Then the silence becomes to you the Holy of Holies; becomes the Altar of the Most High; the inner Sanctuary where is the Ark of the Covenant which God, the Absolute, has made in the Soul. Therefore to the extent you are in Love with Beauty will you succeed as an artist. As much as you are in love with Goodness will you be happy. As much as you are in love with Truth will you be wise. To love what you do, is to succeed in it. To love your life is to make it a success. To love your home is to make it a happy one. To love your business is to succeed. Providing, in all these cases you have first builded a noble Ideal of all these, and love that Ideal (which is your highest conception of God) "with all your heart and soul." "Son, give me thy heart!" success says to every man. From concentration where heart and intellect both join, comes the only success worth striving for—Happiness, Health and Supply. Love begets Faith, and Faith begets enthusiasm; enthusiasm begets effort and effort begets success. Love is the beginning and the end of Life, and it continues a companion all the way. Therefore the Genius of Success says to each:—"Lovest thou me?" and well for him who can truthfully say, "Lord! thou knowest that I love thee!" Then shall come the condition of proof,—"Feed my sheep." A noble Ideal is the only possible salvation, for that is the mould into which love flows and materializes, and the Ideal determines our success or failure. That Ideal should be no less than perfect. "I the imperfect adore my own perfect," says Emerson, and Kant says, "The execution of his whole duty and the final reaching of the goal placed before him as a work, the command is here—'Be ye perfect ?' The test of perfection is, that 'You love your neighbor as yourself." Any thought taken into the silence that is not born of love is weakness and writes that weakness in all your expression. Therefore when you love, you fulfill all Law. This is the Law and the Prophets:—"Do unto others as you would that they shall do unto you!" You wish all to act to you in Love of the Beautiful and the Good. By taking thoughts born of these loves into the silence, by concentrating upon them you prove your love for yourself, and in that love you will love others. Richard Realf, the poet, wished written on his tomb:— "He loved his friends, their love was sweet!" And Leigh Hunt has for his epitaph:"Write me as one who loved his fellowmen!" Such lives are successes, no matter if the grave covers much that we call error and failure. Soul unfoldment is at last the standard. Success is attained in perfection only when we come into the realization that we are one with Infinity. One example remains for us. "I and my Father are one!" This is Loves completeness. This is, as far as earth is concerned — perfect success. When man shall thus concentrate in Love, then shall be fulfilled the prophecy of Henry Bernard Carpenter: Man shall not ask his brother any more
"Believest thou?" but "Lovest thou?" till all
Shall answer at God's altar, "Lord I love!"
For Hope may anchor, Faith may steer, but Love,
Great Love alone, is Captain of the Soul.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Quotes on LOVE. A new commandment give I unto you: That ye love one another.—Jesus. Now abideth these three, Faith, Hope and Love, but the greatest of these is Love—Love is the fullfllling of the Law.—Paul. I swear I begin to see Love with sweeter spasms than that which responds to love. It is that which contains itself, which never invites and never refuses.—Walt Whitman. A man has two needs: that of knowing and that of loving.—S. Barring Gould. The lover needs no law. He'd love God quite as well
Were there no heaven's rewards; no punishment of hell. —Angelus Silcsius.
The verdict of this world is short,
Long and vigorous its report: —
To love and to be loved. —Emerson -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Sign up today for our newsletter and receive Free Ebooks!
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| ------------------------------------------------------------------------- Channel for Love I just saved a Bull Frog in the cistern we are restoring in our 100 year old barn. She is a beautiful creature and has lived there for for perhaps more than a year. But since we are about to do some heavy duty construction on the barn's foundation, I needed to go down through a very narrow hole to retrieve her. I grabbed her with two hands and looked into her eyes before placing her in a plastic jar to hand to Tom, my husband, who had created a large pool for her in the basement. A Saint Francis moment, indeed. Saint Francis moments abound here on Blue Heron Farm, which we call this beautiful place. We live on the meandering Conestoga River, bringing geese, heron, ducks and bird life to us in abundance. And Frogs, of course. We have deer friends who are secure here after our eighteen years of residency. One friend in particular is a deep brown color and we plant a tomato garden for her and her family every year. She stands and looks at us in the early spring each year as if to say: Hey! Don't forget to plant my garden!! Humans are not the most trustworthy species as far as deer are concerned. The fifth aphorism of Pananjali states: "When a person is steadfast in his abstention from harming others, then all living creatures will cease to feel enmity in his presence." The deer, racoons, geese, frogs and heron all use our property as a refuge. They know they are safe and we marvel in their company. Hanging out with these creatures of God-ess reminds me of Saint Francis and what I call the Saint Francis effect. My dogs are the recipient of great love in what they teach us in this life time: unconditional love, forgiveness, and great patience in the face of human foible. The greatest book ever written about Saint Francis is called: "God's Pauper: St. Francis of Assisi" by Nikos Kazantzakis, author of Zorba the Greek. The book was out of print for many years but then was re-published in paperback in 1999. I got a copy as soon as I heard about it, circa 2002. Reading the book transports consciousness to a mystical perspective. The prologue of the book serves as an example: "If I have omitted many of Francis's sayings and deeds and if I have altered others, and added still others which did not take place but which might have taken place, I have done so not out of ignorance or impudence or irreverence, but from a need to match the Saint's life with his myth, bringing that life as fully into accord with its essence as possible. "Art has its right, and not only the right but the duty to subject everything else to its essence. It feeds upon the story, then assimilates it slowly, cunningly, and turns it into legend. "While writing this legend which is truer than truth itself, I was overwhelmed by love, reverence and admiration for Francis, the hero and great martyr. Often large tears smudged the manuscript; often a hand hovered before me in the air, a hand with an eternally-renewed wound: someone seemed to have driven a nail through it, seemed to be driving a nail through it for all eternity. "Everywhere about me, as I write, I sensed the Saint's invisible presence; because for me, Saint Francis is the model of the dutiful man, the man who by means of ceaseless, supremely cruel struggle, succeeds in fulfilling our highest obligation, something higher even than morality or truth or beauty: the obligation to transubstantiate the matter which God entrusted to us and turn it into spirit." Nikos Kazantzakis Do we all have this same obligation? to transubstantiate the matter which God entrusts to us and turn it into spirit? Only Nikos Kazantzakis could or would ask that question and have us wonder if we, too, can rise to this test of human potential? Communing with the animals of Mother Nature these last eighteen years continues to be a spiritual practice: of being riveted in present moment reality, of experiencing compassion and love for all creatures great and small, and in these spaces of infinite awareness, we perceive the fragile preciousness of this world and beyond. The Saint Francis statue which beautifies the flower garden is also a reminder of this fragile balance. The Bullfrog in her new home typifies many more hours of grace as we care for her. The dogs know she is here to stay, probably knew this long before I did. The Saint Francis effect is now clear. All of these years of animal communication and sharing the land and our home, and reading Nikos Kazantzakis's words today, has simplified this. As we look to the Saints and in this case, Saint Francis for guidance, we are automatically transforming matter into spirit. God-ess has entrusted this beautiful planet to us, our families, homes, our very lives; may we care and love and transform all of it and ask the infinite realms, which surround us at all times, to help us remember their guiding presence and to learn to access it the moment we ask. May we know that these wishes are granted ceaselessly. | | ------------------------------------------------------------------------- Love is a Field of Energy
"Love is not a feeling. It is a spiritual energy. Love is pure creative energy at its highest level. Love expressed in human form actualizes your divine self." - Barbara King
Love is not a feeling. Love is a spiritual energy field.
So often in our culture we assume that love is a feeling. That we either feel it or we don?t. That it either exists ? it is present ? or it isn?t. Barbara King?s words direct our awareness to the recognition that love is an energy field ? and as such, it can be cultivated.
Love is an energy field in which we exist. It is a state of being which we exist within. When we step into it, it surrounds us, envelops us, shapes us, fills us. It nurtures us.
When we assume that love is a feeling, we diminish it. Feelings come and go.
States of being ? energy fields ? ebb and waft like clouds. And yet their substance is always present. It is energy available for creation.
When we assume that love is a feeling, we relegate it to the realm of all feelings ? shame, guilt, apathy, despair, longing, excitement, contentment, fear, sorrow, sadness, anger, happiness, desire.
Love is more than this.
When we imagine that feelings rise and fall ? within us ? and that energy states arise and evolve around us ? we begin to recognize that love is something distinctly unique from feelings. When we learn how to contribute to the well-being of the state of love, we are sustained by it. We are fed by it. We are cared for by it. We are loved by it.
Discover for yourself and emulate the Principles and Practices of love ? how to step into it, how to stay in it, how to flow with it.
When we misidentify love as a feeling, we have no responsibility to it. There is no commitment required to maintain it. It ? like most of the human created world we live in ? can easily be mistreated by us. We can take it for granted, become angry when it ?leaves? us, and vow to never succumb to it again.
This attitude completely shifts when we realize what love is. It is a state of being, a vibration, that we must learn to attune ourselves to.
This requires recognition of what love actually is, and discipline to attune ourselves to it.
When we are not attuned to love, we fall out of love.
When we are attuned to love, it never leaves us. Because we never leave it.
What are some of the Principles which support us to step into love ? and stay in it? Here are a few ?
Truthfulness. Honesty ? with oneself first. Honesty ripples from this place outward. Gentleness. Respect. Willingness. Trust. Trustworthiness. Sensitivity. Maturity. Grace. Inner power. Porous boundaries. Being present. Honor ? the ability to honor that which is divine. Rapture - the ability to open oneself to all that which is truly beautiful. Awareness, and awakeness ? being conscious of what is, in this present moment, now. The willingness, and the inner power, to take appropriate action, thus not being fossilized in ? or attached to ? the past. Surrender. The willingness to be love ? to actually become it. This is a process. A process which requires, at some turning point, a decision, a commitment. A decision to align oneself with love. Discover how to spiral yourself upward ? consistently, into love ? rather than downward, out of your inner power, into the depression and apathy of the lower levels of consciousness ? the lower realms of emotion.
These are just some of the Principles which support us each, as individuals, and together, as a community ? a culture ? to experience ? and to be ? in love.
In our culture we often assume that one is either in love, or not in love. That we either feel love, or we don?t.
Let's redefine what being ?in love? means. Rather than simply feeling a feeling, love to us means living in an ongoing state of love. Yes, other emotions do arise from time to time. And yet, with Practice, these are allowed to wash through. They never linger. They never last. They are allowed ? and encouraged and supported ? to arise and to fall. We witness them, with our Observer Mind. And in so doing, we remain unattached. We Practice how not to feed them as a drama. And, as if miraculously, we discover that emotions ? feelings ? rise, fall, and disappear.
Love is not the same.
When we Practice the Principles which love invites us to re-discover, love remains. It is a constant in which these other emotions rise, fall, and pass away. Love becomes the container in which all of life exists.
Human communities, too, can be love. They can be containers of love in which other experiences ? including interpersonal experiences ? rise, fall, and pass away.
This concept could be a quantum shift for you in your life.
You can choose to ? or default unconsciously to ? living on the whims of love ?the emotion?.
Or you can commit to learn how to step into love the energy field.
Find allies to support you on this journey. Together, discover how ...
Carpe diem. Seize the day. Seize this opportunity ? to open and to awaken ? to a new opportunity of how to live your life.
Ariole K. Alei is a Teacher, Speaker, Coach and Author of 7 books. She is the Co-Founder with her husband Colin Hillstrom of HeartSong Matchmaking - "the world's first holistic meeting site for singles interested in spirituality and ecology" and its 'sister' - HeartSong Life and Relationship Training. She leads international Tele Classes on a variety of topics. http://www.HeartSongMatchmaking.com http://www.HeartSongSolutions.ca Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/self-improvement-articles/love-is-a-field-of-energy-312993.html | |
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